Who do you turn to when you’re struggling to understand a loved one who may be experiencing a mental health condition? Do you feel connected to the resources you need to be a positive support to your family member or friend? Are you making your wellbeing a priority in your pursuit of care for others?
The Finger Lakes chapter of the National Alliance on Mental Illness provides free family support, education, and advocacy regarding matters of mental health. Click here to download, print, and share our guide to NAMI-FL’s programs and services.
When families and friends recognize signs that their loved one may be experiencing changes in their mental health, it can be confusing and overwhelming. For 35 years, NAMI-FL has been a trusted resource in our community. Families and friends come to us to learn about their loved one’s experience and to find support for themselves in a compassionate, non-judgmental environment.
One never has to worry that they can’t afford NAMI services, as they are always free.
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Our evidence-based signature classes and support groups are led by trained family peers and developed by NAMI, the nation’s largest grassroots organization dedicated to improving the lives of the millions of Americans living with mental illness.
The history of NAMI is a long tale of courageous families across the nation, from a nationwide signature drive to double mental health funding to building a national organization with over 600 affiliates.
Our local affiliate was founded by Jean Walters in 1986 when families found a warm and compassionate space to share their experiences and find support around the kitchen table. (Listen to the Talk Tompkins podcast with Jean in which she describes how she became a mental health advocate.)
We’re proud of the confidence and trust our community has placed in us to grow and connect more people to the mental health support and resources they need. NAMI-FL is governed by a volunteer board of directors; through the tireless efforts of many volunteers and the generous support of the Park Foundation, NAMI-FL created the position of executive director in 2020.
Together, the board and executive director work with volunteers to meet the needs of families in our community. We increase our impact through connections with other organizations with the shared goal of improving the lives of our loved ones and everyone experiencing changes in their mental health.
NAMI-FL has a rich history of advocacy in our community and in New York State. We keep our local policymakers informed about the mental health needs and challenges in our communities and encourage initiatives such as the implementation of our Ithaca Wellness and Recovery Court and Crisis Intervention Training for local law enforcement. We stay informed about changes in local services and keep families up to date.
We collaborate with NAMI New York State to meet and inform our state representatives about the issues that are important to us. We’re actively working to improve the lives of families impacted by mental illness and empowering our community to advocate for a stronger system of care. Click here to see NAMI NYS’s 2021 Legislative Agenda and learn simple ways you can use your story to make an impact.
We often hear that NAMI-FL is the area’s best kept secret. With your help, we can spread the word, amplify our collective voice, and work together to build a strong system of mental health care. Together, we can make sure families are knowledgeable about their loved one’s experience and never feel alone in their own.
Click here for a review of NAMI-FL’s 2021 activities and to learn how you can volunteer or support our work in the community and across the state.
At NAMI-FL, you are never alone. To save lives, to change lives, we must come together for mental health. We look forward to connecting with you in 2022!
—By Beth McGee
Beth McGee is the executive director of NAMI Finger Lakes
Attention all students in Tompkins County! Do you take kindness for granted? What does kindness mean to you? What does kindness look like?
Help make the world a better place—and go for a prize—by entering the “Make Kindness Go Viral!” contest in January! You can create original artwork, or you can write a short essay, that expresses your own ideas or experiences regarding kindness.
According to the competition guidelines, participants in the artwork competition are invited to submit an original poster or social media graphic, created in any art medium, illustrating kindness.
For the essay competition, participants must submit an original essay of 500 words or less about their “next act of kindness.”
The contest is open to all students. Awards will be presented in separate elementary school, middle school, and high school categories.
The Tompkins County Bullying Prevention Task Force announced December 20 that it will sponsor “What to Do About Cyberbullying,” a day-long symposium via Zoom on January 27, 2022.
The task force’s 2022 United in Kindness event will feature presentations by Sameer Hinduja, author and co-director of the Cyberbullying Research Center, and Amanda Verba, chief operations officer for the Ithaca City School District, and other local experts on child development.
The symposium will also include “Tompkins Youth Speak Out,” a breakout session from 7-8 p.m. with students from area schools discussing how they handle cyberbullying. The session will be moderated by Melanie Little, director of Education and Youth Services at the Mental Health Association in Tompkins County.
All sessions are open to parents, students, school administrators, teachers, counselors, social workers, athletic coaches, and resource officers; and staff at after-school programs and independent youth organizations. Registration to attend any of the sessions is available at: https://bit.ly/3y2DjRu. More information about the symposium is available at: https://thesophiefund.org/bullying/.
“While cyberbullying has been a topic of concern for several years, the shift to online learning and further social isolation of our county’s young people as a result of the pandemic has only further highlighted the need for a robust response to issues of online bullying and harassment,” said Bridgette Nugent, deputy director of the Tompkins County Youth Services Department and co-coordinator of the Task Force.
Added Task Force member Celia Clement, a social worker for 32 years in the Ithaca City School District with a focus on developing student-led programs to create kind, inclusive, and safe school communities K-12:
“Youth only tell their parents that they are having social problems online around 10 percent of the time. We need to give students tools to address cyberbullying, how to handle it, how to be helpful bystanders when they witness other youth being bullied, and when to seek help from adults. There are many potential adverse mental health and social consequences, both short term and long term, for the victims, the perpetrators, and the onlookers.”
The task force also announced the launch of “Make Kindness Go Viral!,” a contest for Tompkins County K-12 students to express kindness in artwork or writing. Contest registration forms are available at https://thesophiefund.org/bullying/. Deadline for submissions is January 17. Awards will be announced during the United in Kindness Symposium.
“The contest invites submissions from all Tompkins County youth to underscore the importance of building and nurturing a community of kindness where bullying is not tolerated,” Nugent said.
The Tompkins County Bullying Prevention Task Force was formed in 2019 by stakeholders from government agencies, community organizations, and schools to explore the prevalence of youth bullying and strategies to combat it.
Jenna Heise, who became the director of suicide prevention implementation for New York State earlier this year, tells of a powerful moment in her work during her previous position at Texas Health and Human Services.
She was attending a high school event in Corpus Christi where a young man spoke. He had been treated for suicidality at a hospital that practiced Zero Suicide, a suicide prevention model for healthcare systems. “The principal come up and said, with tears in her eyes, ‘That young man, he’s alive because of you,’” Heise recalled.
Heise, widely recognized for her work in advancing the Zero Suicide Model in Texas and beyond, related the story during “Call to Action: Suicide Prevention in Healthcare,” a special presentation on the Zero Suicide Model for Tompkins County’s healthcare leaders sponsored by The Sophie Fund on November 16. The presentation via Zoom was attended by senior leaders from 11 hospitals, college health centers, and community behavioral health services, and a representative of the Tompkins County Suicide Prevention Coalition.
Heise used her Corpus Christi story to illustrate the potential of the Zero Suicide Model. “I did this in Texas, across 254 counties, in a statewide effort,” she said. “I know that you can do this. Yes, it works. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard from staff, how many times I’ve been on calls where I’ve heard from loved ones.”
She pointed to healthcare systems where Zero Suicide has been implemented with success, notably the Henry Ford Health System in Michigan. She said that within four years the suicide rate among its patients decreased by 75 percent. In some years the system recorded zero suicide deaths compared to an average 89 suicides per year previously.
Citing data that shows rising death rates, Heise called suicide a “public health crisis.” She said suicide was the second leading cause of death in the U.S. for people in the 10-14, 15-24, and 25-34 age groups, and the 10th leading cause of death overall. She referenced local data indicating that Tompkins County has averaged 12 suicide deaths per year in the past five years, and noted that each suicide tragedy impacts many other individuals such as family members, friends, colleagues, and peers.
Heise said that healthcare providers have traditionally treated suicidal patients in a fragmented approach, whereas the Zero Suicide Model brings together a framework of best practices for a more effective safety net for suicidal individuals seeking professional healthcare. The framework, she added, is based on “mind blowing” research into how to prevent suicide deaths.
“We don’t have to wonder what works,” she said. “We don’t have to throw the kitchen sink at it anymore. We can know what works, and we can use that.” She compared the promise of working more confidently with the Zero Suicide Model with her own experience as a young clinician, when she felt like “a deer in the headlights” when confronted with treating people who had made a suicide attempt.
She argued that it makes sense for prevention efforts to focus on medical providers because so many people who take their own lives are seeing healthcare professionals. She said that 80 percent of people who died by suicide had a healthcare visit in the year before their death. Forty-five percent had a primary care visit, 37 percent an emergency department visit, and 20 percent contact with a mental health service.
Heise quoted Michael Hogan, a former mental health commissioner for New York State and a co-developer of the Zero Suicide Model, saying, “We should treat suicide prevention in health care systems as we treat heart attack prevention.”
Heise walked the Tompkins healthcare leaders through the elements of the Zero Suicide framework, starting with the critical importance of top leadership. “When we talk about leadership, we’re talking about buy-in from the top down,” she explained. “We have to have leaders. Without every level of the agency working together with a consistent message and plan, it’s doomed to fail.”
Training staff in using evidence-based tools is essential, Heise said. She highlighted the importance of properly using the correct screening and assessment tools to identify suicidal individuals and provide them with an appropriate care plan. She noted that the model also calls for engaging patients through developing safety plans that provide them with coping skills for averting crises, and for the use of proven therapies for directly treating suicidality, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Suicidal Patients (CT-SP).
Ensuring safe transitions through care is another key element of the model, Heise said. This involves “warm handovers” when additional professional services are needed, and following up with suicidal individuals with “caring contacts” such as emails, texts, or postcards. Finally, she said, Zero Suicide calls for continuous attention to improving policies and procedures through data collection and other assessment measures.
“It’s a bundle of best practices that you use from the minute you meet the patient, all the way through their intake, their time with you, they’re getting ready to leave, and then the time they leave their care with you,” Heise said. “And then you follow up with them. It’s the entire continuum of care.”
Heise encouraged providers who have not already embarked on implementing the Zero Suicide Model to begin the process by conducting the Organizational Self-Study and Workforce Survey found in the model’s toolkit.
“Look at your organization as a whole, and where you are with certain best practices for suicide care,” she said. “The work force study is where you send out this blanket survey to all of the folks at your agency, to let you know what they know and don’t know.”
Heise said that Zero Suicide promotes a “just culture” in healthcare because it emphasizes the role of the system rather putting responsibility for suicide care and suicide deaths on individual clinicians. “We call it a preventable death, and what we mean by that is not that any of us could have stopped somebody from dying by our single efforts,” she said. “This is really looking at the bigger picture.”
Following Heise’s presentation, Scott MacLeod, co-founder of The Sophie Fund, announced planning for follow-up events to advance the Zero Suicide Model in Tompkins County; they included an expert briefing for healthcare managers and an introductory presentation for primary care practices.
The Sophie Fund proposed that Tompkins County healthcare leaders begin a formal and regular dialogue on Zero Suicide to share ideas and experiences, and to work on securing funding for a county implementation coordinator and training programs, MacLeod said.
He acknowledged the tremendous pressures and stress on healthcare providers amid the Covid-19 pandemic, but expressed hope that leaders will respond to the “Call to Action” with further efforts to implement the Zero Suicide Model.
“We are grateful for your work to improve suicide care in Tompkins County,” he said. “We invited our community’s top healthcare leaders to this ‘Call to Action’ today because leadership is the number one element of the Zero Suicide Model.”
The Sophie Fund launched a Zero Suicide initiative in 2017 by organizing an expert briefing on the model for local healthcare leaders. In 2017, the model was recommended by the Tompkins County Suicide Prevention Coalition and endorsed by the Tompkins County Legislature.
Among those attending Heise’s presentation were Frank Kruppa, director of the county Health Department and commissioner of Mental Health Services, and Harmony Ayers-Friedlander, deputy commissioner.
Other agencies represented were Cayuga Medical Center; Cayuga Health Partners; Guthrie Cortland Medical Center; Suicide Prevention and Crisis Service; Family & Children’s Service of Ithaca; MindWell Center LLP; REACH Medical; Cornell Health, Cornell University; Center for Counseling and Psychiatric Services, Ithaca College; and Health and Wellness Services and Mental Health Counseling, Tompkins Cortland Community College.
If you or someone you know feels the need to speak with a mental health professional, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741-741.
Bullying can have serious immediate and lasting harmful impacts on children, yet 64 percent of those who are bullied do not report the experience to an adult, according to Bailey Huston, coordinator of PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center. Huston spoke at “Kindness, Acceptance, and Inclusion in the Age of Covid-19,” a webinar hosted by the Tompkins County Bullying Prevention Task Force on October 27 in a program marking National Bullying Prevention Month.
Huston reviewed the four main types of youth bullying: verbal bullying, using words to tease or harass; emotional bullying, such as manipulation, gossip, or exclusion; physical bullying, such as kicking, hitting, damaging or stealing property, or unwanted touching; and cyberbullying, using technology such as social media to hurt or harm.
“We all know that conflict is a normal part of a kids life, and it can be hard to figure out if it is bullying or just conflict,” Huston said. Yet, she added, it is crucial to understand the distinction. She explained that conflict is between individuals of equal circumstance who are not seeking to cause harm, whereas bullying involves a power imbalance where a perpetrator is not concerned about causing harm and may actually be motivated by a desire to control.
“Some common views about bullying are that ‘It’s part of growing up,’ ‘It makes you tough,’ ‘Kids will be kids,’ ‘It’s only only teasing,’” said Huston. “But bullying should not be part of growing up.” In fact, she argued, bullying can negatively impact a child’s education, health, and safety.
Students who are bullied may avoid going to school, which can cause a decline in academic performance and even dropping out, Huston said. Bullying can lead to stomach aches, headaches, and sleep problems, and emotional problems like depression and anxiety, she said. Finally, bullying behavior can result in physical harm to bullies and their targets, she said.
It is important to emphasize, Huston said, that bullying is a behavior, and behavior can be changed. The focus on addressing bullying should be on the behavior, and not the person, she said.
“We avoid using words like the ‘bully’ or the ‘victim,’” she explained. “Behavior like bullying can be changed. It is not a permanent part of who they are. This behavior does not have to define them. When you pull back those layers, we can see there are number of ways we can redirect the behavior in positive ways.”
Bailey advised parents to talk to children about bullying, and support and empower them if they are bullied. She encouraged parents to start a conversation with their children at a young age, and to provide constructive backup if and when they experience bullying. She said it is important for children to know that being bullied is not their fault and not their responsibility alone to stop the bullying. Huston said students should be encouraged to report bullying to a teacher or trusted adult, and advised against encouraging them either to stand up to the person bullying them or to just ignore the bullying.
Huston noted that PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center provides a wealth of educational as well as support materials on its website.
To address a serious bullying problem, Huston suggested developing actions plans. She said a “Student Action Plan” can reflect on the issue and develop steps to change the situation. A “Parent Action Plan” should keep a record of incidents which should include any written information, the date of the event or events and person or persons involved, and their child’s own account of what happened, she said.
Additionally, Huston said, parents should decide on the best approach for taking action—for example, whether to approach school staff, health professionals, law enforcement, or other community members about the problem. She said parents should learn their legal rights in the situation, and know the procedures for reporting a problem. Many schools have specific procedures for reporting incidents, but Huston noted that Pacer’s website provides a template letter that parents can use as well. (Click here to download).