UPDATED: A Parent’s Guide to College Student Mental Health

Political division and violence at home. Conflicts around the globe. Tense debates over everything from climate change to public health. Not to mention the pressures of succeeding in college and finding a job after graduation.

These are very stressful times for today’s college students. They require parents to fully grasp the serious mental health challenges their students may face and be equipped to provide support.

Cornell University students participating in a campus suicide prevention walk in April 2024

Did you know that the majority of college students today meet the criteria for at least one mental health complaint? Or that there are often wait lists to receive support from college counseling centers, community clinics, and private therapists?

The Sophie Fund publishes “A Parent’s Guide to College Student Mental Health” to help parents—especially those whose children are attending college in Ithaca—better understand the challenges and how to deal with them.

The guide curates key resources about student mental health and lists support services on campus and in the Ithaca community. It also includes advice from local mental health experts, college administrators, current and former students, and parents of students who have dealt with psychological challenges in college.

DOWNLOAD: A Parent’s Guide to College Student Mental Health (PDF)

Rates of depression and anxiety are high among college students. In fact, many students carry suicidal thoughts. Sexual assault is prevalent among college students. Hazing violence as an initiation rite at fraternities and some student organizations is a serious problem.

All of these factors pose even greater risks for students who arrive on campus with a mental health or substance use disorder.

“It’s crucial for parents to understand potential signs of distress, and how to foster trust and open communication to support their child during this period of transition,” said Sigrid Pechenik, former associate director of Cornell University’s Counseling & Psychological Services (CAPS).

“It’s never too early to start a conversation, do not wait until mid or late semester. Recognize symptoms beyond expected adjustment, such as changes in mood and behavior, academic struggles, social withdrawal, changes in communication, and/or loss of interest in things that they used to enjoy.”

Failure to understand these realities of college student life today, and to help with issues that may arise, can lead to serious consequences.

When parents do fully grasp the scope of the challenges, they are more attuned to how their student is handling the major life transition from home to college. Parents especially need to understand the risk factors and warning signs for a mental health crisis, and how to support their student if they should exhibit cause for concern.

Help can range from staying connected with moral support and positive encouragement to evaluating and navigating mental health treatment options at the college counseling center, in the community, or back home during a health leave of absence.

Our plea to parents: Even if you think you don’t need it, download and review the guide, and keep it close at hand during your student’s college years and beyond.

DOWNLOAD: A Parent’s Guide to College Student Mental Health (PDF)

Be Safe at College This Year

As the school year begins, college students across Tompkins County have arrived on campus equipped with a variety of unique personal experiences. Many students will live away from home for the first time. Others might be met with academic and social challenges they have never encountered before. All students deserve safety, respect, and care. 

New Cornell University students pose in front of the student union

Unfortunately, this time of transformation and growth can also coincide with sexual and relationship violence. Each year, between the months of August through November, instances of sexual violence at universities in the United States increase drastically.

This period of time is known as the “red zone,” beginning at the start of the fall semester and lasting through Thanksgiving break when many students go home. More than 50 percent of college sexual assaults happen during this time, according to the Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network (RAINN). Sexual violence does not cease as the “red zone” ends in December, so continuing these conversations is crucial. 

The Advocacy Center of Tompkins County and The Sophie Fund partnered to create Be Safe at College, a simple flyer highlighting key resources to cultivate safer campuses, support sexual assault survivors, and hold perpetrators accountable. Pin a copy to your bulletin board, or upload it to your phone.

DOWNLOAD: Be Safe at College Resources

“I hope that the Be Safe at College flyer will be a resource for students to keep in their self-care toolkits, whether they think they will need it or not. It’s always helpful to know about support options for you and your friends because you deserve safety and compassion,” said Alex Kabat, Campus Educator at the Advocacy Center.

After graduating from Ithaca College in 2024, Kabat knew she wanted to provide support to the greater Ithaca community. Utilizing her own lived experiences as a college student, she provides trauma-informed education, connection to resources, and dedication to support at each local college campus: Cornell University, Ithaca College, and Tompkins Cortland Community College. She also provides programs, print materials, interactive tabling opportunities, and more. For any inquiries, email Kabat directly: akabat@actompkins.org. 

“Trust your gut—you know what feels best for yourself, so lean into that innate knowledge,” said Kabat. “No matter what happens, violence is never your fault and perpetrators are the ones who should be held accountable.”

RAINN’s “Prevention Tips for Students” web page also has a wealth of helpful information for college students.

SUPPORT RESOURCES

Advocacy Center of Tompkins County

Free, confidential, local support and advocacy for survivors, friends, and families around domestic or dating violence, sexual assault, and child sexual abuse.

Hotline (607) 277-5000

Office (607) 277-3203

Instagram: @advocacytc

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network(RAINN)

RAINN operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline and provides programs to prevent sexual violence, help survivors, and ensure that perpetrators are brought to justice.

Hotline 24/7 (800) 656-HOPE

Online (English)

Online (en español)

Instagram: @rainnn

EMERGENCY

911 Ithaca Police Assistance

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

Cornell University

Cornell Police (607) 255-1111

Cornell Health & CAPS (607) 255-5155

Victim Advocacy (607) 255-1212

Title IX Office (607) 255-2242

Student Conduct (607) 255-4680

Ithaca College

Campus Police (607) 274-3333

CAPS (607) 274-3136

Title IX Office (607) 274-7761

Student Conduct (607) 274-3375

Tompkins Cortland Community College

Campus Police (607) 844-6511

Counseling (607) 844-6577

Title IX Office (607) 844-4440

Student Conduct (607) 844-8222 x6591

Need an Ithaca-Area Therapist? Here’s Help for That!

As the days grow shorter and that familiar crispness returns to the air, life in the Ithaca area begins to shift. College students flood back into town—some for the first time, some returning after summer break—and the rhythm of the community changes almost overnight.

For therapists in Ithaca and environs, this time of year always marks an uptick in calls and emails. Whether it’s a college student navigating the transition to campus life or a longtime resident facing new challenges, many people start thinking: Maybe it’s time to talk to someone.

The Ithaca Region Therapist Group (IRTG) is here to help.

IRTG is a network for therapists and mental health professionals in Ithaca and the Finger Lakes Region to connect and share resources. We have now launched a new website at www.irtg.org, designed to connect people in the Ithaca area with trusted local mental health professionals.

The website is a one-stop resource for finding support whether you’re in a moment of crisis or simply ready to prioritize your mental well-being.

What started back in 2005 as a small circle of local therapists gathering in each other’s living rooms has grown into a robust, collaborative network.

Over the years, our group steadily evolved to better meet the needs of the community. Our internal therapist listserv now boasts nearly 600 members, averaging around 150 posts per month and serving as a valuable resource for the therapy community.

With the creation of the new website, our group has expanded its vision and reach—reflected in a name change from the Ithaca Therapist Group to the Ithaca Region Therapist Group.

The website offers:

 —A searchable therapist directory to find local private practice therapists by specialty, treatment approach, and availability. The search can be filtered to show therapists who are accepting new clients.

—A Spotlight series featuring local therapists discussing their personal backgrounds and approaches to supporting clients.

—Curated listings of national, state, and local crisis hotline and other support resources; including separate pages for Tompkins, Cayuga, Chemung, Cortland, Seneca, Schuyler, and Tioga counties.

—An Upcoming Events calendar featuring support groups, wellness workshops, and educational offerings.

—A portal for the network’s therapists to stay connected with each other and informed through shared resources and updates.

—By Tamie Pushlar

Tamie Pushlar is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Ithaca and a member of the Ithaca Region Therapist Group Leadership Team

A Cornell Campus Walk to Prevent Suicide

Under sunny Spring skies, 200 students, staff, and faculty raised more than $12,600 on April 13 in the third annual Out of the Darkness Walk for suicide prevention on the Cornell University campus.

Cornell Dance Team in the Out of the Darkness Walk

Dispatched by the Big Red Marching Band, participants including the Cornell Dance Team, squash and fencing athletes, and the superhero known as the Cornell Batman trekked a two-mile route from Barton Hall along Garden Avenue, to Tower Road, and then Campus Road back to the starting point.

“You are making a difference,” said walk organizer Cheyanne Scholl, welcoming the participants inside Barton Hall. “You decided today that mental health and suicide prevention is an important issue and needs to be talked about. I applaud and appreciate every single one of you for being here and standing up in the fight against suicide and raising awareness for mental health issues.”

Walking on Garden Avenue

Audrey McDougal, a licensed social worker with Cornell’s NY FarmNet, related that she has seen firsthand how mental health challenges and emotional pain can isolate people at a time when they are in greatest need of connection. She said she loves the “Strength in Numbers” motto of the NBA’s Golden State Warriors.

“The Warriors use this motto to indicate their selflessness, the power in everyone having a role. It speaks to collective effort, of what we can accomplish when we are not alone. At the Out of Darkness walks, I see countless people who are willing to bear witness to pain together. I see people talking about the hard things, accepting others without judgment, and overcoming the fear that can arise with offering—and accepting—help. I see strength in numbers,” McDougal said.

Audrey McDougal of Cornell’s NY FarmNet

Closing out the program, John Grealish, a fourth-year student in the Cornell College of Veterinary Medicine, performed “Rainbows Over Coeur d’Alene” in memory of a friend and fellow Cornell vet student, Yiannis Stathopoulos, who died by suicide in 2022.

Grealish’s original song was inspired by his experience at a veterinary leadership retreat in Idaho, which Stathopoulos had attended a year earlier shortly before his death. During a boat ride in the rain on Lake Coeur d’Alene, the participants sang “Lean on Me” in Stathopoulos’s memory. Grealish recalled that when they stepped ashore, a rainbow suddenly appeared overhead.

“Anyone who knew Yiannis would know that this is a person who was a source of brightness and friendship to everyone. He was accepting of everyone. He was a natural born leader,” Grealish said.

John Grealish performs “Rainbows Over Coeur d’Alene”

About 600 Out of the Darkness walks are held across the United States each year by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) to raise awareness, collect research funds, give hope and show solidarity to those who struggle with suicidal thoughts and to suicide loss survivors, and send a message that “suicide is preventable and no one is alone.”

In 2023, 173 college campus walks with 26,000 participants raised $1.6 million. So far, the three Cornell walks from 2023 to 2025 have collected more than $44,000 in donations.

Among the participants in the 2025 Cornell Walk were 13 fundraising teams, with the Cornell HR Community Walk Team bringing in the most funds, $1,765. Other top teams included the Cornell Out of the Darkness Planning Committee, Cornell Athletics, and Team Hope. Leon and Jules Ginenthal were the top two individual fundraisers, with $735 and $663, respectively.

Participants were provided with “honor beads,” necklaces in vibrant colors signifying their connection to the suicide prevention cause—white for the loss of a child, red for the loss of a spouse or partner, gold for the loss of a parent, orange for the loss of a sibling, purple for the loss of a friend or relative, silver for the loss of a first responder or military member, green for personal attempt or struggle, teal for someone who struggles or has attempted suicide, blue for supporting the cause, and rainbow for the LGBTQ+ community.

A light to guide through the darkness

This year’s sponsors included: Suicide Prevention & Crisis Service of Tompkins County; Cornell University NY FarmNet; Halco Home Solutions; Zach Clark State Farm; Be Kind Ithaca; Taste of Thai Express; and Big Red Barbershop.

Cornellians left messages on the “Why We Walk” wall:

To support the cause

For myself and my brother. You are not alone!

In memory of Nick Budney

For my best friend Holly

To give someone hope

For the friends I almost lost. There is hope beyond the darkness.

To show up for those who could not. Even for themselves.

To remind myself that I am not alone

A light to guide through the darkness—Batman

CHAOS CREATES CHANGE!!

Your life is more precious than money, grades, human determinations of success. There is only one you and you are irreplaceable.

The things that make you are beautiful

You deserve to be here

Talk about it! PLEASE!

For Jack. I miss you!

You are loved!

Ask for help

Why We Walk

How are you feeling right now?

Hope Walks Here

A beautiful day for a walk

Along Tower Road

Organizer Cheyanne Scholl addresses the walkers

Participants in Barton Hall

Honor Bead ceremony

Cornell Health

NAMI Finger Lakes

Suicide Prevention & Crisis Service of Tompkins County

Advocacy Center of Tompkins County

#StopSuicide

Cheyanne Scholl and the AFSP Team

Photo Credits: Basie Bagnini Nagel/AFSP and The Sophie Fund

If you or someone you know feels the need to speak with a mental health professional, you can call or text the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 9-8-8, or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741-741.

At Cornell University on April 13, Join the Walk to Prevent Suicide

Surveys show that poor mental health can hit college students hard. Many struggling students feel that they are alone. I am part of a dedicated group of mental health advocates at Cornell University proving that is not the case. We are working hard to raise awareness about suicide and fight the stigma that keeps many from getting help.

Photo credits: Cornell AFSP

On Sunday April 13, our Cornell volunteer committee of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention will host the third annual Out of the Darkness Campus Walk at Cornell.

The 2023 and 2024 walks brought participation from hundreds of students, faculty, and staff and raised more than $40,000 for AFSP research and programming. Our ambitious goal this year is to collect $25,000 in donations.

More than 500 AFSP Out of the Darkness walks are held across the country each year. Besides raising funds, the walks send a message that “suicide is preventable, and no one is alone,” and help build a community around mental health. They show solidarity and bring hope for suicide attempt survivors or loss survivors.

Click here to register, create a fundraising team, or donate to the Walk

This year’s Cornell Walk begins in Barton Hall and follows an accessible two-mile route through the center of the beautiful Cornell campus. It is for people of all fitness levels and abilities. Participants may also walk/roll on Barton Hall’s indoor track.

Fundraising or donating are not requirements to take part in the Walk; everyone from the Cornell community and beyond is welcome.

Walk check-in begins at 11 a.m. in Barton Hall. The event starts 12 Noon with a brief kickoff ceremony; a mental health resource fair featuring local and campus health providers; yard games; a raffle with donated items from local and campus businesses; a memorial and positivity sticky note wall; snacks including cotton candy and popcorn; and a selfie station with Cornell’s own mascot, Touchdown the Big Red Bear.

Speakers include Audrey McDougal, a family consultant with NY FarmNet at Cornell, and Cornell students Disha Mudener and John Grealish.

Sponsors of this year’s Cornell Walk include: the Cornell Work/Life Team; Suicide Prevention and Crisis Services of Tompkins County; NY FarmNet; Halco Home Solutions; Zach Clark State Farm; Be Kind Ithaca; Free Hugs Ithaca; Sumo; and Taste of Thai Express.

For me, as for many other volunteers, Out of the Darkness walks are deeply personal. Just as I was starting college in 2017, I was introduced to AFSP in a traumatic period after my longtime friend Jack Noonan took his own life. The loss of Jack permanently changed who I am. I miss him every day and started my volunteer work in his memory.

Our organizing committee consists of more than 20 members: passionate undergraduates, graduate students, post-graduate students, staff members, faculty members, and local community members. Our goal is to let everyone know that, you matter, you are important, your mental health matters. We don’t want anyone to feel like they are the only ones struggling. So many of us are struggling and we can struggle together and support each other.

Another goal this year is to share mental and physical health resources as far and wide as possible. As mental health and minority groups are under attack right now, we want to spread a message of belonging. We want everyone to know that they are loved, they are wanted, and they matter.

If our countless hours of Walk organizing means just one person seeks and receives help, it is worth every second.

—By Cheyanne Scholl

Cheyanne Scholl is the founder of the Cornell University Out of the Darkness Walk and chair for the 2025 Walk. If you are interested in joining AFSP’s local efforts, please contact Cheyanne at cornellafsp@gmail.com.

If you or someone you know feels the need to speak with a mental health professional, you can call or text the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 9-8-8, or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741-741.

For AFSP support and/or other resources, please visit www.afsp.org/get-help and www.afsp.org/resources.